Most adults today are a product of the “Failure is bad” culture in our schools. We were conditioned that one “F” on a test or project and your grade couldn’t recover. We sat quietly not wanting to answer the question wrong for fear of looking stupid, instead of taking a risk and sharing our ideas for the benefit of everyone’s learning. As a result we hide, cover, and blame others for most of our mistakes. Yet we tote inspirational quotes on our walls about learning from mistakes like this one from Dale Carnegie, “The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way.”
Here is our chance to show our children that we can profit from our mistakes if we take time to honestly consider the ones we’ve made, reflect on the consequences, and choose differently from here on out. Parenting is no exception. In fact, it may be the most important place for us to admit our mistakes and change our parenting behaviors to better equip our children.
This article (link above) captures some of our parenting mistakes in 21st century. I found it sobering and am taking to heart the implications in the learning arena. Take a read and just ponder the implications for your family. Perhaps an honest conversation with your 10 year old about these can change the course of his or her life as well as yours.